How do I know if I can trust someone?

Well first and foremost, actions speak louder than words. I know that’s very cliche, we always hear that, actions speak louder than words, but really think about it, right? Someone will say something, but then they’ll do the other. And what we really need to realize is that people’s actions are representation of their intention, of their priorities. So, if someone says “Oh, I wanna get together, I can’t wait to see you,” but they don’t actually make time in their schedule to do it, that means that you’re not their priority. And so it’s really important for you to just simply take into account what they do over what they say. And I know that sounds a little strong and harsh, so as much as that is important, it’s also important for you to adjust your expectations. So, people often do have good intention behind what they’re doing, but they aren’t able to really prioritize and live according to what it is that they truly believe and truly want. But if you, if you’re willing to adjust your expectations, than you know what it is that you can expect from someone. So if you have your friend who you know loves you, but they’re just a flake and they can never show up on time, it doesn’t mean that they don’t love you, it just means that your expectation of them might have to shift that you don’t wanna get there on time because they’re never gonna show up on time.

So in sum, how can you know if you can trust someone? (1) Is really pay attention to their actions, and then (2) adjust your expectations. When you really know what you can expect from them, then you can adjust what it is that you’re ready to receive, and determine that that way.

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Jasmin Terrany, LMHC

Jasmin Terrany, LMHC has a Skype based private practice empowering women who appear to have it yet still feel unsatisfied on some level. She helps women access their ultimate potential and take their lives to the next level in every realm. Jasmin is a Columbia University graduate and licensed psychotherapist who invented Life Therapy, the combination of psychotherapy & coaching with mindfulness & meditation.